{"id":30000,"date":"2021-03-29T07:35:17","date_gmt":"2021-03-29T07:35:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hpdi.ro\/cum-am-ajuns-sa-iubesc-coachingul\/"},"modified":"2023-03-30T07:19:39","modified_gmt":"2023-03-30T07:19:39","slug":"how-i-got-to-love-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hpdi.ro\/en\/how-i-got-to-love-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"How I got to love coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

#SolutionFocusedCoaching<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why I love coaching<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the mountain to the sea,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how bad the weather is<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Coaching will forever be my solution<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In June 2019 I was going to have 1 day of training in Cluj. The day after the training, individual coaching sessions were held with each of the participants. I had never done that before. I heard about coaching, of course. It seemed to me that everyone around me was a coach. You know, the story about the bubble we live in. The only thing I was connecting with coaching was a session I had been a client to some years ago. The only session. With a famous coach. The session convinced me that it was not an experience I would repeat. Interrogation, not coaching. Completely devoid of empathy, of humanity. You realize, I didn\u2019t have a very good opinion about coaching as a process and outcome. From this position in regard to what coaching means, dear Gina, take up coaching with 10 people for 10 hours in a row.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t seem like a good premise, does it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn’t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I asked what I had to do. \u201cAsk open questions.\u201d Pfff, of course. Since it was going to happen in 2 days, I couldn\u2019t do a fast training. So I went to improvise what I assumed coaching should be, with a personal touch of humanity added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Surprise!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, 10 surprises one after the other. I was a trainer for 11 years and only then I had the revelation of the effect of well-placed questions, addressed in a reliable setting. 10 hours have passed in flight. How did this happen? With every conversation, I saw the light in the eyes of the interlocutor. \u201cThe customer,\u201d as they say. Which to me was a human. A person who wanted to live better with the decision he had to make. A person who wanted to be closer with his office colleagues. A person who wanted to communicate more calmly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Starting with restraint, I came to see with delight how people found an answer, a solution, a way to act, or a step toward more clarity. You know I started to love coaching! I did a training. 4 modules. I would have done more, but that was all it took.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Petra M\u00fcller-Demary has been my guide in this process, I am deeply grateful to her for this. And here I started with restraint. No, that\u2019s not how I usually am, that\u2019s the beginning of my relationship with coaching. Let me explain: I have a training in therapy, packed with practice in this area.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know that therapy is not like a walk in the park, it can often be similar to rafting on a raging river.<\/strong><\/mark><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The coaching method, on the other hand, was Solution Focused Coaching. A walk in the park. Helping clients find the image of the solution \u2013 coaching conversations are built on this topic. I was wondering how it was possible that just by talking about the solution you could come to a solution, I simply couldn\u2019t see it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After more than 100 coaching sessions, I can now make a more comprehensive list of why I came to love coaching:<\/p>\n\n\n\n